Friends

Happy New Year!!! This is my first blog of 2018. 2017 has been extremely kind to me and I look forward to the continued magic in 2018.

I’ve been wrestling with this particular topic for some time now. I feel as though I’ve come to a weird realization surrounding friendship. Friends – how many of us have them, right? Ha, well we all have them. The friendships that surround us are the friendships we have created and agreed to throughout our lives.

This day and age, you hear a lot of talk about fake friends, friends that aren’t loyal (p.s. I STRONGLY dislike the word “loyal”; reminds me of pets and such), back stabbing friends, etc. What you don’t hear much about is how we are all responsible for those friendships. Every moment in our lives takes us through a roller coaster of emotions and mindsets, and through those, we attract and gravitate towards those that best suit our situation in the current moment. When we evolve beyond that moment or period in our lives, we find ourselves surrounded by those that USED to be a good match.

Today, Spirit wants us to know that it is okay to ask for what we need. But, in order to do so, first we must admit that we in fact have needs (get your mind out of the gutter on this one). As we step more confidently into our new path, we soon find ourselves no longer relating to our friends the same way. We seek out guidance as to what is next for us. How do we go about working with our current friendships in order to feel supported? We ask for all this guidance and all these signs and while the Universe is giving us exactly what we want, we’re too busy navigating all these outgrown friendships and relationships to see what is right in front of us; lost conversations, less and less time spent with friends, no communication unless there is a death, no initiated communication on our behalf as well as theirs. Keep in mind, all of this has transpired as result of free will – our choices.

Why do we call these folks our friends, anyway? What makes us friends? Is it the x amount of years we have under our belts? Common bars that we no longer frequent? Family ties? A couple of classes we once took together? Is that really what we want our friendships to be founded upon? Is bar talk and history the only thing we want our friendships to be about? If we can’t reach out to our “friends” and talk about what drives us, our passions, our desires, our family, children and goals, then why the heck are we still calling each other friends?!

There comes a time when we must take a step back and release all that no longer serves us. And I don’t mean that in an egotistical manner, but rather in a manner that supports our highest and greatest good. And once we realize this, I can assure you that we also no longer serve their highest and greatest good either. The reason I bring this up today is because I have realized I no longer speak to quite a few folks I still call friends. Now, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s perfectly alright to release friendships and relationships in an amicable way. Doesn’t mean you hate each other or that things turned to shit.

I am friends with so many folks from high school and elementary school. And even though high school is but a mere 20+ years in the past, I find that I am closer and talk more to my elementary school friends! This brings me to my own realization. A realization that kind of sucks to flat out say. A lot of my high school friends aren’t really what I now consider friends. We have all evolved. We have all grown. We all have consciously chosen to seek out other friends, communicate with others and just lead a different life than we did when we first met and became friends. And that’s okay. When we say “life got busy”, “you know how it is, always busy”, etc, that is another way of expressing that fact that we simply chose not to keep in contact. We are the creators of our lives. We determine what we are going to do from day to day. And when we don’t have certain friends on the list of communication for an extended period of time, that is a manifestation of our choices. It took me a long time to stubbornly accept that. I had a habit of reaching out to those that made absolutely no effort to reach out to me, not even on occasion. And ya know what, that’s okay too. It sucked pretty bad but it was a hard lesson I was ready to learn. I know now that these are huge signs from the Universe in regards to a support system for both myself and others.

Today’s message from Spirit reaffirms how I have been feeling about my version or interpretation of friendship. I no longer wish to be that friend that makes a weird big deal about getting together when we happen upon each other at the mall during Christmas shopping where the ridiculous crowds literally force us to run into each other. I don’t want to be that friend anymore that texts out of the blue to force a conversation or to reminds folks that I still exist. I no longer wish to be the friend that is unable to support you in your current journey in life because that isn’t what I was meant for in your life. I WANT to be a friend that:

~ communicates more often than every year

~ supports you in your passions, goals and purpose in life, with a true and open heart

~ loves your family as much as I love you

~ respects you in all facets of your being and life

~ inspires you to always be the best version of yourself

~ holds your hand when you go through tough times and exciting times

And in return, this is what I want in a friend.

I am asking the Universe to have my needs met and I have all the answers I need right in front of me. We all do, right there in front of us. Don’t be scared to admit that some relationships/friendships no longer serve us (remember, for our highest and greatest good) and instead, be excited that it is all working in our favor to propel us into the next step in our lives.

So, I ask again…friends, how many of us have them? We all do! It just may be time to re-evaluate what friendship really means to us now. Don’t be scared to ask for guidance as often as you want. Remember, it’s there for us all the time!

With Love and Divine Feminine Strength.
Yours Truly,
Anna R.
Feel free to reach out to me, at any time.