Hello, folks! I have a question for you…now that you are where you are in your spiritual journey/development, how does it affect your relationship? Does it affect your relationship? I am not in a relationship at the moment because I am focusing on my spiritual development, but I do recall how things were in my last one. I wasn’t very spiritual at all. That was still the part of my life where I had renounced Catholicism. We both had a foundation in which the usual characters participated, e.g. god, jesus, the bible, etc., but neither of us practiced anything; I was completely against any religious anything! Having said that, there weren’t any issues or discord. It wasn’t until the arrival of my daughter that I started to rearrange my perspective.
Now, in the present, I know where I stand with the situation, and what I want. I have come a long way with my spiritual development. I have been through so many experiences that have molded me and helped open me up to what I know is where my soul belongs. Does that make sense? I hope so. Along the way in my development I also faced a lot of the not so great parts of me that I needed to address and heal. Yup, you guessed it…shadow work. I went from being pretty hostile to choosing to incorporate love into my life everyday and in different forms. It was during that process that I realized, man…I don’t want to date mediocre folks anymore. I want more, I want greater, I want my equal!! I want someone that is on the same path or relatively similar. Of course support will be there but that isn’t enough for me. I want to experience the growth and expansion of an ATR (African Traditional Religion that I have been called to) together. I want to support and teach each other and learn together. I want to go to misas and shop for spiritual supplies together. Honestly, if I don’t have that then I don’t want anything.
Our spirituality is important, it is the foundation of our very existence. Having a conversation with our partner about it is part of a healthy relationship and a spiritual one. They don’t have to agree with us or all of a sudden decide to be a part of our practice, but there does indeed have to be an open dialogue. It can be hard to watch our partner change right before our eyes and either not being able to understand or having completely different views. It can cause a lot of tension and frustration. Feel me?! Sometimes our spiritual development is where our entire life changes. It shows us who we are from the depths of our soul. We shed generational trauma, childhood trauma, we learn to recognize and be accountable for our toxic behaviour & relationships, and we learn to allow ourselves to experience love in so many different forms! And through all of that, we might possibly realize our relationship is no longer a healthy, nourishing and supporting partnership and it’s time to release it. Can you imagine explaining that to a partner that isn’t familiar with any of it?
The flip-side to all of that could be that our partner is also experiencing something similar, or they may not be experiencing the same thing but they do want to learn and grow together, or they simply want to be supportive and not be part of our journey altogether. So many possible scenarios and so many possible reactions. It all really just depends on where you are in your spiritual development and what you want. Overall, the only thing that factually matters is talking about it. If we don’t talk about it then we don’t know about it. Spirituality in a relationship is so personal and there isn’t much one can say about it because it’s all dependent on personal experience. What I can say is, no matter what you have going on, be sure to choose a partner that is supportive, nourishing and in alignment with your highest and greatest good. The time of sacrificing our wellbeing is long gone. Please don’t ever compromise who you are, ever. You are worthy and deserving of all the magical, delicious and amazing love!
To spirituality and relationships!
With Love and Divine Feminine Strength. Yours Truly, Anna R.
